“15 Traits Of An Emotionally Mature Person”: Are You?

Maturity, what is it? How defined? You’ve heard the expressions, “He’s so immature” or “he’s so mature for his age”. This writing seeks to characterize the emotionally mature person. I am guided by the fifteen traits listed by a blog entitled “Conscious Rethink”. I will embellish these descriptions with my own thoughts.

  1. SELF-AWARENESS: Essentially self awareness is about building up an understanding of your personality, its strengths and weakness, its potential and limitations, and every little nuance. This means you take the time and develop the means to raise your consciousness to a level to be able to do that. Another trusted person’s description of you may assist in developing this capacity.
  2. SELF CONTROL: Building on self awareness you are better positioned to exert more self control. You can better understand urges that build up in you and develop the restraint to behaviors that are self destructive or damaging to others.
  3. ACCOUNTABILITY: You take a proactive stance in your life. You develop goals and progress toward them, willing to be accountable for your commitment and actions.
  4. HUMILITY: You don’t have the need to put yourself above others. You are not arrogant or boastful. You respect others and treat everyone fairly.
  5. SELF ACCEPTANCE: You own who you are, with your strengths and weaknesses. You do not live in the past or blame the past for your shortcomings. You move forward challenging yourself to be the best person that you can be.
  6. GRATITUDE: You appreciate the good things that exist in your life. You are grateful to be in a position in your life that you can read this and, hopefully, appreciate the blessings in your life and the capacity to continue to create a wonderful life.
  7. COMPASSION: When you are grateful you usually also develop the capacity to empathize, have concern for others, and do what you can to help others.
  8. BEING OTHER-CENTERED: You recognize your inter-connectedness with others. You celebrate their successes and assist where possible with their failings.
  9. OPEN-MINDEDNESS: You no longer see things black or white, right or wrong. You are open to endless possibilities, ideas, beliefs, etc… beyond your own enculturation.
  10. A SENSE OF WONDER: You view the universe as an incredible thing as it evolves and see more and more of its wondrous complexity. As a devotee of Einstein, I offer this quote of his: “The most beautiful emotion we can express is the mystical. It is the power of all true art and science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead. To know that what is inpenetrable to us really exists, manifesting itself as the highest wisdom and the most radiant beauty, which our dull faculties can comprehend only in their most primitive forms – this knowledge, this feeling, is at the center of true religiousness. In this sense, and in this sense only, I belong to the rank of devoutly religious men.”
  11. OPTIMISM TINGED WITH REALISM: You understand good things don’t always happen but you maintain a positive mindset because you know that the alternative is defeatism and despair.
  12. FLEXIBILITY: You adapt to situations. You are not stubborn or rigid. You are capable of change when the situation or knowledge calls for such. You do not have “hardening of the categories”.
  13. RESILIENCE: Even when things are going badly, you do not give up. You are not overwhelmed. You persevere continuing to seek solutions for moving forward.
  14. PATIENCE: You do not over react to situations. You do not try to do things before the time is right.
  15. HONESTY: You are a person of integrity. You have no need to deceive. You seek and speak truth to the best of your ability. You can be trusted.

Personally, I am impressed with this list of fifteen and will review them periodically to assess to what degree I am an emotionally mature person. I invite you to do the same. Only good things can come out of such an effort!

“The unexamined life is not worth living”   Socrates

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