Answers To The Question, “Do You Love Yourself?” Yours?

Do you love yourself?  What kind of reaction do you have when I ask you that question?  Your answer?  Possible responses to choose from, but not limited to, follow.

  1. Of course I do. I think I’m pretty amazing. (A narcissist perhaps?)
  2. One should not love oneself. I must remain humble. (Self degradation sometimes is an interpretation of humility).
  3. I’ve done some bad things and am carrying a lot of guilt. Therefore, I cannot love myself. (Doesn’t understand forgiveness and letting go of the bad stuff)
  4. I have not been successful therefore I cannot love myself. Success is necessary to love myself. (Financial or other personal “successes” are unrelated to loving yourself as a person)
  5. God made me.  God is Love.  I am created in his image, so I love myself. God didn’t create junk. (This person didn’t get the Adam and Eve memo of “Original Sin” – that babies are born sinful until baptized)
  6. I’ve added up my good points and think I am loveable. (A true left brained rationalist at work).
  7. My wife and kids love me so I must be loveable. (Pretty good for openers!)

Any of these answers fit? Do you have any others?

I believe that any valid spirituality and psychology invites, and helps make happen, the capacity for a person to love oneself.  I wish there would be a simple answer to help people find in themselves, and believe in, a healthy self love. People that love themselves take care of themselves.  They do not need various addictive and self destructive elements into their life. They are responsible and loving toward those entrusted into their care – whether it be family or other opportunities.

A healthy self love comes mostly from the emotional part of one’s brain, the right brain.  How you FEEL about yourself. It is the apex positive emotion that overcomes the negative emotions of fear, depression, anger and guilt.  I have tried over the years to help self loathing people find self love by examining and enumerating various positive qualities of that person.  Rarely did such knowledge in the left brain cross over and integrate with the right brain to create a self loving person. Embracing self love and receiving well the love of significant others is a worthwhile option while hiking through the occasional rough spots along the trail of life. Give it your best shot for the reward is worth the effort put forth!

Remember: “You can’t give what you don’t have”, and that includes Love!

“The unexamined life is not worth living”    Socrates

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