How Do You Compare To Happy People? Do The Checklist And Find Out!

I remember asking a friend many years ago what she wanted out of life.  She replied that she just wanted “to be happy”. At the time I thought that was superficial. Over the years, my research and clinical experience, has changed my perception of wanting to be “happy”.  I now see it as a desired goal, not seeing it as superficial but as a guided chosen way to aspire to live.  If you make good healthy choices you have a high probability of being happy.  Thus, the rationale for this writing.

Our daughter, Brittany, is a very accomplished blogger with thousands of followers. On her blog site,, she cited and personalized, a writing by Chiara Fucarino entitled “22 things happy people do differently. I would like to share them and add my own commentary.

  1. DON’T HOLD GRUDGES: People that forgive, and work to forget, do not let negative feelings crowd out positive ones. Thus they are less inclined to be depressed, anxious, or stressed. To continue to let anyone who has wronged you continue to have power over you is not very wise.
  2. TREAT EVERYONE WITH KINDNESS: It is proven that being kind makes you happier. Kindness acts produce serotonin, a hormone that eases tension and lifts your spirits.
  3. SEE PROBLEMS AS CHALLENGES:  A “problem” is viewed negatively as a drawback. A “challenge” is positively viewed as an opportunity or dare.
  4. EXPRESS GRATITUDE FOR WHAT THEY ALREADY HAVE: “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.”
  5. DREAM BIG: If you dream big you open your mind to a wider range of opportunities and will put yourself in a focused and positive state.
  6. DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF: Life’s too short to obsess over trivial situations; and in the bigger scheme of things, most stuff is trivial.
  7. SPEAK WELL OF OTHERS: Being nice feels better than being mean. Saying nice things about people encourages you to think positive, non judgmental thoughts.
  8. NEVER MAKE EXCUSES: Happy people don’t make excuses or blame others for their own failures in life. They own up to their mistakes and by doing so try to change for the better.
  9. GET ABSORBED INTO THE PRESENT: Happy people don’t dwell on the past or get caught up in the future. They savor the present. Carpe diem!
  10. WAKE UP AT THE SAME TIME EVERY MORNING: Successful people tend to be early risers. Waking up at the same time every morning stabilizes your circadian rhythm, increases productivity, and puts you in a calm and centered state.
  11. AVOID SOCIAL COMPARISON: Don’t let others’ situation be a barometer of your well being. It leads to judgment and feelings of superiority or inferiority depending on the comparison. Focus on your own progress.
  12. CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY: Surround yourself with positive optimistic people who encourage you to reach your goals.
  13. NEVER SEEK APPROVAL FROM OTHERS:  Happy people don’t care what other people think of them. Their slogan is “what you think of me is none of my business”.
  14. TAKE TIME TO LISTEN: Talk less, listen more. Listening keeps your mind open to others’ wisdoms and outlooks on the world.
  15. NURTURE SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS: Lonely is miserable. Happy people understand how important it is to have strong healthy relationships.
  16. MEDITATE: Meditation silences the mind and helps you lower stress and find inner peace.
  17. EAT WELL: Everything you eat directly affects your body’s ability to produce hormones, which will dictate your moods, energy, and mental focus. “You are what you eat!”
  18. EXERCISE: Exercise raises happiness levels by lowering stress and raising self esteem based on chemical changes in the brain and a sense of accomplishment.
  19. LIVE MINIMALLY: Having less “things” and avoiding clutter keeps stress down and elicits productivity.
  20. TELL THE TRUTH: Lying stresses you out, corrodes your self esteem, and makes you untrustworthy. Being honest improves your mental health and build trust with others.
  21. ESTABLISH PERSONAL CONTROL: Happy people have the ability to choose their own destinies. Nobody tells them how to live their life. Being in control of one’s life brings positive feelings and a great sense of self worth.
  22. ACCEPT WHAT CAN’T BE CHANGED: Life is not fair. Accept that and focus on what you can control and change it for the better.

There they are. How do you stack up?  How many of these are characteristic of your life? Which ones do you need to work on?

“The purpose of our lives is to be happy”- Dalai Lama.

“The unexamined life is not worth living”- Socrates

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