Questions To Help You Know Why You Are Who You Are!

Some people enjoy the quest for self knowledge.  If you are one of them the following questions and answers may lead to further enlightenment.  I invite you to plunge in for further self revelation.

  1. Are you male or female? 2. What race are you?
  2. Are you an only child? 4. Do you have siblings?
  3. Do your siblings have the same biological father and mother?
  4. Where do you fit in the sibling order?
  5. Did your parents have a good marriage when you were a child?
  6. Did your parents nurture you?
  7. Were your parents “there” for you?
  8. Was there any physical, emotional or sexual abuse in your family?
  9. Did your parents divorce? What age were you?
  10. Did either of your parents abuse alcohol or use drugs?
  11. Was your father gone a lot due to his job?
  12. Did you move a lot as a child?
  13. How did religion affect you?
  14. What was the culture like in which you were raised?
  15. If you had a step parent, what was s/he like?
  16. Were your teenage years difficult?
  17. Was school challenging for you?
  18. Have you felt that you “fit in” in most social situations?
  19. What kind of relationship did you have with your grandparents?
  20. What was your family economic/social status?
  21. Did you have any serious physical ailments?
  22. Was their a serious illness or death in your family while growing up?


The above factors, plus genetics, significantly effect and affect your personality, marriage success, parenting style and career.  Most people do not pay enough attention to these influences.  If people would only do their homework, they could avoid many painful and costly mistakes.

In most cases you probably are quite different from your sibling (s).  Think about it. A few stereotypical examples follow, based only on birth order.

  1. First borns usually are the most left brained, logical, responsible, and successful career wise. They tend to be more emotionally restrained.
  2. If the first born does mostly the right things, the Second borns will tend to have a “rebellious ”or “out there” side. They often are more right brained, creative, and emotional.
  3. If the First born is a “screw up” the Second one is usually more successful.
  4. If the Second child is a middle kid, s/he oftentimes will have problems. The “squeezed” child usually feels short changed and presents challenges.
  5. The Only child, or the Last child, tends to be self centered and self absorbed. Often they are “spoiled”, so they think they are the center of the universe.

Remember, these are stereotypes. There are exceptions because there are so many other idiosyncratic variables involved in the developing brain/personality. There are plusses and minuses to each personality type. One type is not particularly better than another. Each of us is unique!

Knowing where you came from, what developed you, is critical to knowing yourself.

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