“Ten Fundamental Truths We Forget Too Easily” Worth A Peek At!

Respected Reader, how is your memory? I know that mine has plenty of lapses. Certain things I know and should be putting into practice occasionally, okay, often, fall by the wayside. Reminders can help us re-focus, become aware again, on some fundamental things that can make our life work just a bit better, or a whole lot better! Dr. Travis Bradberry has a talent for helping the reader to embrace things that enhance success, both in personal growth, relationships, and in the workplace. I respect his writings and often bring them to this space, with my added contribution. I like these reminders and invite you to reflect on them

1. BEING BUSY DOES NOT EQUAL BEING PRODUCTIVE: “Success doesn’t come from movement and activity. It comes from focus – from ensuring that your time is used efficiently and productively.” You’ve heard the expression “running around like chickens with their heads cut off”, have you not? (google the expression). My calendar is a constant reflection and reminder of how I spend my time. It is a reflection of my priorities. May you evaluate your priorities and spend quality focused time in getting what is important done well.

2. GREAT SUCCESS IS OFTEN PRECEDED BY FAILURE: “The biggest breakthroughs typically come when you’re feeling the most frustrated and most stuck.” Personally, I know this to be true, as I changed my career path two times when in this state of being. I wasn’t failing per se, but in need of a change. In both cases I moved forward in a creative and enlivened manner. Thank you frustration! Life is a series of adjustments moving through the ups and downs. When in the down position it is necessary to have the resilience to progress to your next best situation.

3. FEAR IS THE SOURCE OF REGRET: “When it’s all said and done, you will lament the chances you didn’t take far more than you will your failures. Don’t be afraid to take risks. … The worst thing that can happen to you is allowing yourself to die inside while you’re still alive.” The expression “frozen in fear” is real. Fear stops you in your tracks. One of my favorite expressions is “just do the next right thing”. Overcome fear and move forward. Any particular fear stopping you at present?

4. YOUR SELF WORTH MUST COME FROM WITHIN: Too many people measure their self worth based on the opinions of others or what they have accomplished. Such superficial and transient reinforcement only makes you more needy and dependent. When your self worth comes from within you are your own rock and can withstand any adversarial element in your way.

5. YOU’RE ONLY AS GOOD AS THOSE YOU ASSOCIATE WITH: “You should strive to surround yourself with people who inspire you, people who make you better.” Remember your parents telling you in your teens not to hang around this or that person? They didn’t want you to be influenced by such an individual. “Birds of a feather flock together” makes sense. Look who you are hanging around with. Look to see who you might want to raise the bar towards. Flying high or waddling low?

6. LIFE IS SHORT: Carpe diem, seize the day – while you can. Appreciate the opportunity that each day offers for going forward in ways that are important priorities for you. This one has never meant more than it does these days! J

7. YOU DON’T HAVE TO WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY TO FORGIVE: “Life goes smoother once you let go of grudges and forgive even those who never said they were sorry. … Hate and anger are parasites that destroy the joy in life.” Carrying negative baggage, emotions and thoughts, just weigh you down. They are a mental burden robbing your brain of the “good stuff”. Park it and leave it!  Not easy, but most worthwhile.

8. YOU’RE LIVING THE LIFE YOU’VE CREATED: “You are not a victim of circumstance. No one can force you to make decisions and take actions that run contrary to your values and aspirations. The circumstances you’re living in today are your own – you created them. Likewise, your future is entirely up to you.”Too often in my office I hear people play the victim card. Life has not been “fair” to them. And, it may not have. My practice is build a lot about the wiring of the brain, both genetically and experientially. But neoplasticity is a reality. The brain and behavior  can be modified to produce wonderful outcomes for those who choose to make the effort. My practice continues to verify that every day!

9. LIVE IN THE MOMENT: Personally I don’t see much of a difference between this one and number 6. Get with it. Don’t hesitate in getting on with life and the choices immediately before you. Another cliché: “He who hesitates is lost.” Be “found”!

10. CHANGE IS INEVITABLE – EMBRACE IT: “Only when you embrace change can you find good in it. You need to have an open mind and open arms if you’re going to recognize, and capitalize on, the opportunities that change creates.” Again, the oft quoted Einstein: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” Change, but research well the contemplated choice.

Respected Reader, any of these reminders saying anything to you? Or, are you continually on top of these “fundamental truths”?  Any other “fundamental truths” of your that you may want to call back to mind and action?

“The unexamined life is not worth living”    Socrates

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